OK So my sister and I were talking today about how women need to get more real with each other! We all struggle with different things everyday! We have good days and bad days but we keep them to ourselves! We need to share these parts of ourselves, we need to know we are not alone in this. I am sure most of you know several women that you see and just think, "Man they really have it all together, their house is always clean, they always look amazing, their kids are well behaved and quiet and nothing seems to frazzle them." I am sure that there is something about them that is not always perfect! We all have those things.
I for one have many things! Now I am not saying whoa is me or that my life is hard (it certainly could be harder) but I am saying I am a real mom that lives in a real, usually not clean house who on most days has something smeared on my shoulder or pant leg. I love stopping by a friends house in the afternoon and seeing that they too are still in their PJ's! Or talking to a friend and hearing them admit to taking some kind of medication that helps them be a better wife and mother. Or having another admit that they don't really like their 11year old today! I love it when we can talk about struggles we are having with our kids and the things we are trying so that our child will not sound his siren type cry that can be heard from across Costco! WE ARE REAL PEOPLE WITH REAL LIVES AND REAL STRUGGLES! We need to embrace these and help each other realize that we are not alone in this. We have each other! We need to stop comparing ourselves to others and start embracing the people that we are at our best and worse! We all have those days when our husband gets home and we grab our keys and holler GOOD LUCK as we walk out the door. ( We also have the days when life is Really really good and we wouldn't change a thing! I love relishing in the fact that this is real life! Not some Mormon mommy blog where our house looks AMAZING all the time, there is fresh baked bread or cookies coming out of the oven everyday and our children are perfectly well behaved scriptoriun who can teach Gospel Doctrine with the best of them.
I am glad there are some moms out there that do seem to have it all together! I am glad for the ideas they share with us of how to make our lives better and I am so glad there are beautiful women who inspire and encourage us to be the best we can! BUT I am so glad for the people in my life who are real!!!! Thank you and Keep on Keepin on!!!! I LOVE YOU GIRLS!!!!
I couldn't have said it better myself! As I read this, I look at my just-changed shirt, and realize I have yet another chocolate chip smear across my shoulder from a snuggle I got from my son. Ha! You are an amazing mom, an amazing wife, and an even better friend. Thank you for this reminder!
ReplyDeleteI have been thinking similar thoughts lately and you put it perfectly! It is so hard not to compare sometimes. And as much as I want to think that I can do it by myself and have to figure everything out myself, it's always nice to have some encouragement or some backup when Aaron gets home (even though he's been gone most of May!). Thanks for sharing and I will try and keep it real and not expect too much of myself! :)
ReplyDeleteAmen! You're great! Love you! Glad to be able to keep it real with you!
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